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Evidence-Based Couples Therapy
Feeling alone together. Losing empathy and respect. Speaking 'different languages'. These are some of the painful consequences of failing to hear your partner and compassionately communicate your needs. Effective, loving communication is the bedrock of healthy attachment. My process starts with listening and validating each partner's unique emotional truth. I then de-escalate, examine the negative cycle, and return the couple to basics to restructure communication patterns. Once safety is created, deeper unspoken needs and wounds can be explored. I am focused on creating a safe environment to foster vulnerability and increased intimacy.
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I take an eclectic approach using methodologies that are backed by research. They all have their strengths (EFT, Gottman, IFS, Etc.) But no matter the theory, research shows the most important element of effective couples work is therapeutic rapport. It increases the odds of a successful treatment outcomes (Gurman, & Snyder, 2011.) This is where my combination of theoretical expertise and life experience working with people in all walks of life is invaluable.
How connected are you? Find out.
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Neurodiverse Couples Therapy
Neurodiverse couples require unique strategies specific to thier dynamic. When a couple learns they are neurodiverse (one partner or both with Autism, ADHD or other differences in wiring) it can be a relief after years of frustration and disconnection. Neurotypical partners often feel gaslighted by their neurodivergent partner leading to serious mental health challenges. The Neurodiverse partner can feel misunderstood, overwhelmed and, in turn, shut down. Common differences in communication are logical vs. emotional, concrete vs. abstract, absolute vs. relative, and avoidant vs. insistent.
There are proven ways to rebuild a healthier, happier connection. The first step is to help couples identify just how differences in wiring affect interaction cycles. Next is to break blame and shame patterns and find acceptance in differences through a structured step by step process that helps you rediscover love and acceptance.
I provide a structured approach to couples therapy using using newer strategies tailored to the differences in wiring along with a precise roadmap along with elements of Internal Family Systems, EFT, Gottman Method, CBT, Attachment Theory, Relational Life Therapy, and more.